tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-892506252169617105.post5701344141467274249..comments2023-10-23T17:32:15.824-04:00Comments on Working it out...: I choose ME…Karenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13254493351463617215noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-892506252169617105.post-33825847003324835992011-04-28T16:07:53.254-04:002011-04-28T16:07:53.254-04:00This is such a hard thing. And when you say no, y...This is such a hard thing. And when you say no, you feel so selfish, but you have the right to be "selfish"! :) Good luck!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09771758178064698651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-892506252169617105.post-74179307831403217112011-04-27T09:25:12.662-04:002011-04-27T09:25:12.662-04:00Important topic and discussion questions! It's...Important topic and discussion questions! It's a great reminder to look at the things & people we choose to spend our time with. :-)Sara Cox Landolthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03297257752158859878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-892506252169617105.post-38552765070262057892011-04-26T22:32:29.552-04:002011-04-26T22:32:29.552-04:00i did this a couple years ago... i used to volunte...i did this a couple years ago... i used to volunteer for like 3750284 non profits. i was grumpy and dreaded going to meetings/events. so, as things wound down i slowly backed down on my participation. i kind of took it to the extreme as now i don't volunteer for anything though. but sometimes, you just need a break.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17720800873803974929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-892506252169617105.post-9423828732833531632011-04-26T16:23:45.385-04:002011-04-26T16:23:45.385-04:00is it sad to say I think maybe i shoudl be more of...is it sad to say I think maybe i shoudl be more of a people pleaser? I love my friends and family, but i'm ok with saying no if it feels best for me...that's probably the only child in meRunToTheFinishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13995696358152941044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-892506252169617105.post-23736386138069051292011-04-26T14:10:29.987-04:002011-04-26T14:10:29.987-04:00Like you I do try to please others far too much. ...Like you I do try to please others far too much. What is worse is that I am also super positive and this seems to both a person I am close with. This person shared this feeling with me last week. Hurt my feeling and left me feeling strangley bitter.<br /><br />This week is better and I have decided to just BE ME! They can like it or not.<br /><br />I somethimes thing that the best gifts are given to those that have no idea that it came from you. <br /><br />You are on the right path.Gotta Run.....https://www.blogger.com/profile/03647983887882662002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-892506252169617105.post-9111509123835477692011-04-26T10:11:59.542-04:002011-04-26T10:11:59.542-04:00I'm a people pleaser, too...I think it's e...I'm a people pleaser, too...I think it's embedded in our genes cuz I know my mom was, too. I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing, there just needs to be balance. Good luck, I'm rooting for you!!Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10174883718651790845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-892506252169617105.post-57023652399852832462011-04-26T09:33:17.353-04:002011-04-26T09:33:17.353-04:00I'm a middle child, but I definitely pick and ...I'm a middle child, but I definitely pick and choose who I go out of my way for. Enjoy the process!KovasPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03401299101228398072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-892506252169617105.post-41238480756142014492011-04-25T22:55:03.473-04:002011-04-25T22:55:03.473-04:00I work with a people pleaser. A person that can&#...I work with a people pleaser. A person that can't say no and they doesn't ever ask for help. What does this matter to me? Well, I'm the one that hears all about it. The person that listens to the complaining, the anger, the frustration and in some cases tears. When I suggest that this person learns to say no or ask for help it falls on deaf ears...So, people pleasers can actually affect those of us that have learned that no is not a dirty word :)!<br /><br />Good luck with the family member situation - that makes it 10 times more difficult for sure.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03150626438827196914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-892506252169617105.post-89170920906209636702011-04-25T20:40:45.135-04:002011-04-25T20:40:45.135-04:00I have to say I am a people pleaser too, Karen. Bu...I have to say I am a people pleaser too, Karen. But I have been working on it for the last year and the first time I said "no" and the world didn't "fall apart" it was totally empowering. Keep working on it. It's worth it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-892506252169617105.post-16687722749004309972011-04-25T20:39:37.213-04:002011-04-25T20:39:37.213-04:00I'm with Jim I was about to ask you to make me...I'm with Jim I was about to ask you to make me a couple dozen cupcakes; now my plan is spoiled! Good for you, you are on hard road but you are being frank and honest about it. Cheers!Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13061231036755945077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-892506252169617105.post-28581314479941332242011-04-25T19:40:04.580-04:002011-04-25T19:40:04.580-04:00I am def. a people pleaser but I am finding that A...I am def. a people pleaser but I am finding that AGING is helping. I don't seem to care so much if I am not pleasing everyone. <br /><br /> I find myself now getting mad at people who complain at all they have to do because they never say no. Today someone asked me if I could meet on Friday (after missing the meeting we had set up for today) and I said no. I didn't give a reason, I just said it wouldn't work. <br /><br />Let's keep working on being a hard a** more of the time!ajhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04851129364728161965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-892506252169617105.post-36006898574095703912011-04-25T19:10:57.973-04:002011-04-25T19:10:57.973-04:00I have a hard time with this too. Great job worki...I have a hard time with this too. Great job working on it though. I try and always fail miserably. Maybe I can learn a thing or two from you :)Meg O @watchmegorunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14578457264702590988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-892506252169617105.post-7841939999362901972011-04-25T18:41:27.744-04:002011-04-25T18:41:27.744-04:00Well that's just great, you write this post on...Well that's just great, you write this post on the day I was gonna ask you for cupcakes - forget it now! <br /><br />Seriously, this is a great post! I REALLY struggle with this. I'm in sales and it's so hard to not always say "yes". Unfortunately, this leaks over into my personal life. We had a family issue last year that I finally had to put my foot down on, it was tough and things still aren't great - but it had to be done. We'll see I guess. Great post!Jim ... 50after40https://www.blogger.com/profile/14165153305680378261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-892506252169617105.post-38464798082292939612011-04-25T17:27:50.064-04:002011-04-25T17:27:50.064-04:00Good luck with the process. I'm kind of the ot...Good luck with the process. I'm kind of the other way, typically I find it too easy to avoid doing things for people. A middle ground is definitely better. Too bad we can't average ourselves together! :)Kate Geisenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11854561265520868538noreply@blogger.com